What Do I Want?

By January 27, 2015Blog, Daily Declarations

What do I want?
A few months ago, this question haunted me for weeks?

I was working on the fifth or sixth draft of my book proposal.  Throughout the process, I sought and received the expertise of professionals in the publishing field.  After several drafts and many,many months, the “final” draft was not aligned with what I wanted.  This version had a little bit of what everyone said it needed but the core of the document had moved far away from what I truly wanted.  
I stopped and asked myself, “What do I want?”

In the beginning, we know what we want and along the way we can move away from our truth.  It’s not enough to just ask ourselves at the beginning “What do I want”, we must keep this question in the forefront throughout the process.

In my situation with my book proposal, I allowed what other people wanted to direct me so much that what I wanted was stretched beyond what was true for me.

There’s nothing wrong with listening to and acting upon the experience, expertise, and knowledge of people I trust to help direct my steps.  I’m paying some of these amazing professionals and expect them to provide me this information.  But I must always keep asking myself, what do I want and continue to ask until I am clear on the answer.

I’m now asking you this question.  What do you want?  I mean really, really want?  Not what will pay the bills.  Not what will look good on a resume.  Not what will make you more popular.  What is the still small voice in your gut, heart, and mind saying to you that you WANT.

We all have some things that are deeply rooted in our spirit that we know we really want, but are too afraid to actually speak or pursue.

I challenge you to spend quiet time with yourself answering the question, What do I want.   Be very honest with yourself.

In asking myself this question, spending quality time with myself to accept the answer, I’ve received so much freedom.  For me, many of the things I was involved with and/or preparing to do were not aligned with what I really wanted.

During my December planning, instead of adding things to my 2015 plan, my time was spent removing many activities that were distractions.  This has given me the clarity to accelerate my accomplishments in the first three weeks of the year.  I am making decisions, owning my choices, and courageously living in my truth of what I want.  

When I stood for what I wanted, cut away everything else, not only did my vision become clear but I delivered a final version of my book proposal that everyone agreed is FABULOUS!!!!

In the comments below, please share what you want in 2015.

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  • Anthony Jackson says:

    Sheri! This is powerful and again right on time and an affirmation to my own personal journey. I took the month of December and did some soul searching of my own, and I discovered that I did not need to add another thing to my calendar. I did not need to have another New Year resolution. I did not need to rehearse or rewrite the same thing over with different catch words. I just needed to keep on the road that I was traveling and follow my own instinct and be “true to my calling.”

    With that being said, I decide to sum my journey up in three power words that I live by daily. Forgiveness, Intention, and Alignment.

    Forgiveness is such an easy word but many of us really don’t understand what it is for. It really is not for others it is for ourselves. When I think of forgiveness in my new context, I start daily with forgiving myself for my shortcomings. I have made peace with my past and I am healing from that, because I am working on forgiving myself for the choices and the decisions that I have made that have lead me to this point in my life, good , bad or indifferent.

    Intention – A lot of us love Psalm 37:4, “Delight thyself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” but many of us don’t really get it. It was not until I went to Oprah’s, Live Your Best Life Weekend, that I finally got it. We all wake up thanking the higher power everyday, and we all have these grand desires in our heart with what we want. But I realized that God does give us the “the desires of our heart,” based on what we spend our time doing and thinking about. See we can have have all of these beautiful thoughts on what we want, but we forget to ask ourselves daily, and review what are we meditating on, what are we doing daily to receive or be in alignment with our hearts desires. See if we are backbiting, gossiping, not living with integrity then that is what we are going to get back because the meditation of our heart is not on our desires, but on worldly things.

    Which leads me to my last point Alignment. If we want to receive the desires of our heart the alignment of our heart and mind must be in the right place and meditating on the right things. See God can not bless us when our heart wants one thing, and our mind is meditating and thinking something else. I believe that is the reason God put our mouths between our head and our heart, because the words that we speak will either show that we are coming form a heart place or a mind place. So when we stop and let our hearts takeover, we don’t have to worry about what others are saying and doing from a mind space, because if we listen to that still inner voice and get the mind and heart lined up, we will make the best decisions for us. I know it is a lot to comprehend, but please keep up the good work. YOU ARE HONORING YOUR CALLING!

    Anthony Jackson

    • Sheri Riley says:

      YAY AND AMEN!!!! Anthony, thank you for adding so much value to my post with your insight and truth about Forgiveness, Intention, and Alignment. Many more blessings, my friend.

  • Lequvia K. Ousley says:

    Wow, reading this reminded me of the self-reflection I took in 2011. I asked myself the same question. I knew that I was being drawn to doing more outside of what I was currently doing at the moment. Instead of embracing my inner truth then, I just went with the familiar territory I was in. It took another 2 years afterwards for me to finally step into my powerful truth. There’s more to me than the little box I had spent numerous years creating for myself. I’m blessed to know now that what I want aligned with what God wants for me goes beyond anything that has been placed before me. Thank you Sheri for this post and congrats on the new book which is long overdue ;-)!!

  • CCTaylor says:

    I really needed that! Every night I go to be exhausted and never got to do the things I really wanted and love to do. My goal in 2015 is to make myself a priority and this factors into my journey greatly. Thank you for sharing.

  • Pat Bradley Freeman says:

    Thank you, Sheri. This was a great article. It Is the absolute truth. Very well said.

  • Edwina Anderson says:

    Your article was timely! I was just thinking to myself, what do I want? During our lives we make many decisions and hope that we’ve done our due diligence in seeking out sound advice from those we trust. But ultimately, the decision is ours. We must have faith that we did our research and “take the staircase without knowing where it leads” Martin Luther King. For me, 2015 will hopefully allow me more freedom to do more and learn to advocate for others! You will always have my support and I look forward to your book.

  • Anthony J Wilson Mba says:

    I want to “ownership” of my tomorrow.

  • me says:

    I want the courage to be as honest with the people around me as I have been with myself. I want to make the unpopular choice and to not be riddled by the guilt of dissapointing grown ups. This seems selfish, but I want permission to be that today. I want all of my senses satisfied. I want to learn how to live in this moment and how to better trust God for the next one. I want to spend time nurturing the part of me that is good and I want to prune that part that falls short. I not only want to be thankful for what I have but I want to find peace in the preparation for what is next. I want to be a better freind to friends like you. Life has provided clarity – now I must find strength.

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